Frequently Asked Questions (F.A.Q.) Frequently Given Answers (F.G.A.)
We’ve heard many different questions over the past week because of our adoption plans. Rather than share the questions, I’m only going to share the answers! Read the following and then use your imaginations to determine what the questions might have been!
2. No. Absolutely not!
3. We’ve suffered from three miscarriages. We might be able to have children “of our own” if we used invasive, expensive medical techniques, but we feel called to adopt God’s children – the orphans.
4. When the baby is born, I’m going to cut my working days back from four days per week to two days per week. I am also able to take a six-week maternity leave. Don’t you wish you had my job?
5. Black as black can be. Black mama, black daddy.
6. Yes, we are crazy. We’re going to need a lot of prayer and a lot of help. Two adoptions in one year will be a huge undertaking.
7. Yes, Chance is a little excited. He texts me every five seconds asking when the baby will arrive. Similar to when we are on a road trip and he asks, “Are we there yet?”
8. Yes, I know that having two children will actually feel like three because of the choice I made when marrying my husband…
9. No, I don’t know the first thing about styling an African-American boy’s hair. I hear Wal-mart has an ethnic section. I plan to stand there with the baby until someone takes pity on us and tells me what to buy.
10. I believe the church will be throwing us a baby shower after the baby is born. We are so blessed by our church family!
11. No, we are not naming the baby Kenneth Chance, despite anything the senior minister attempts to use as a persuasion tactic. Although, Shane and Lorna didn’t think they were going to name their son Kenneth Shane either…
12. No, we’re not afraid of open adoption. We decided last year that open adoption was the most God-honoring type of domestic adoption. We love our “babymama.” We pray for her daily, and we will continue to do so for the rest of our lives. We are opening our hearts to her and her family. As long as she continues to be a positive influence, she will decide how involved she would like to be in our son’s life.
13. Our son will know that his birthmother carried him in her belly until he was born. He will be told that Chance and I adopted him and chose him to be our son. He won’t have to be a rocket scientist to figure out that he didn’t come from my belly!
14. We are as ready as anyone ever is before having a baby. Our overnight bag and car seat are packed and in my van. We cleaned the house recently and are attempting to stay current on laundry. I have a list of ridiculously crazy dreams items that would ideally be completed before his birth (i.e., clean baseboards, wash all windows, get the reverend graduated from seminary, etc.) but he won’t really mind the dust on the baseboards if he comes before I have the chance to clean them…
15. No, unfortunately, I’m not catching up on sleep before he arrives. I’m lying awake every night trying to plan the next eighteen years of our lives.
16. Yes, we’ve decided on a name. I was under the impression that we were keeping it to ourselves. My husband is telling it to the world. Please defer this question or similar questions to the loud-mouthed man I love.
17. I do intend to attempt to breast-feed our baby. Betcha didn’t even know that was a possibility… 🙂
18. Yes, we absolutely appreciate your prayers and support. We feel God moving through the people He has placed in our lives. We are blessed to call you our friends and family. Thank you for the love and kindness you have already shown, and that you will show after our baby is born.